|Monday, May 26th, 2008|
i joined this community to ask a serious question that hopefully i could get some insight on:
my boyfriend and i found out we were expecting in november and are due in july. we planned on keeping the baby and making the best out of the situation, but the realization has set in that i'm only 20 years old and he's in his mid-twenties, and neither of us are in any way financially or mentally ready to be the parents that our baby deserves (i'm still in college and he's a musician). i mean, if we worked really hard (to the point of defeat; which could lead to unhappiness and regret) we could raise our baby with everything she deserves. but in the last couple of days we've considered the option of adoption..
i'm just so on the fence about everything, and i definitely don't want my pregnant hormones to decide the end result.
so i guess what i'm wondering is if any of you had some good advice, or experience, or anything that would open my eyes to either option (keeping the baby or letting a deserving family raise her). i'm not asking for you to choose for me, just any wise words that would help.
and feel free to ask any questions to better understand the situation.
oh and we do have a strong support system of friends and family, but i don't know if i want/should have to depend on others as much as we would have to; and we're also worried of what they will think if we DO decide to choose adoption...
so yeah, there it is. Current Mood: blah
|Wednesday, November 1st, 2006|
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So please help a group of students out and thank you so much in advance for your help!http://websurveyor.net/wsb.dll/34789/x6team1.htm
|Monday, April 11th, 2005|
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|Thursday, March 31st, 2005|
This is a legal question, so anyone with experience in this area is more than welcome to answer. I am not eligble for FMLA maternity leave since will not have worked for my company for 12 months prior to taking leave (and the company is far too small to qualify anyway). When I told the VP that I was pregnant, she congratulated me, then said, "I'm sorry to say that I don't know what your maternity leave will be..." I said that can be discussed later (since it was still early and the chance for miscarriage at that point is high, etc. I also thought I was legally covered for 12 weeks, but now I see that I am not. I live in Texas, which allows employers to fire employees for (literally) no reason at all nomatter how long they've been there. Does anyone know if there are any federal minimum requirements that would apply to me? I really don't want to take only a few weeks off after my baby is born, but we can't afford for me to be a stay-at-home Mom (which would be ideal).
x-posted a lot
|Friday, March 4th, 2005|
|Thursday, March 3rd, 2005|
Hi everyone! This is my first post in this community, courtesy of technocowboy
. Although some would not yet consider me a mom due to the fact that the baby's still in the belly, I figured that's good enough. Oh, and I'll take any useful advice and positive comments/stories (I'm sick of hearing about the chances of miscarriage) that you're willing to give. Thanks!
Hope this is ok...
Hi i don't own this site but its a great place for mums from all over. Please come join us & when you do, mention me or lj please. we have an arcade too :D
|Tuesday, December 21st, 2004|
Special Needs Kids
When I was 20, I had a summer job at a camp for mentally and physically challenged adults and kids. One week, there was an extraordinary camper by the name of Vicki. I can't put my finger on why she was so extraordinary when all of our campers were, but Vicki left an impression with me. Her mother volunteered at the camp that week. When we had some downtime (not that there was much of it!), Kathy was part of the small group of counselors and we were talking. Of this group, I was the only first-timer. I turned to her and asked her what it was like having a special needs child. She smiled and said, "When I get home, I'll send you a copy of something I have to explain it all." A couple of weeks later, I got the following letter:( To Jeremy:Collapse )
No, there's no reason that I'm posting this, except that I found this folded piece of paper when we were unpacking. I was happy to see it and I just thought I'd share.X-posted to my LJ
|Wednesday, November 3rd, 2004|
hi! i am already a member of this community under my old journal name but i deleted that journal and made this new one so i guess ill re-introduce myself =)
i used to be x0sweetkissesx0. im almost 21, mommy of 2 (a 2 1/2 year old boy and a 1 year old girl), wife to my wonderful hubby going on 3 years. thats about it. if you want to know any more, just ask.
|Tuesday, November 2nd, 2004|
Click for a link!
(You know you're hot stuff...)
~* Laura *~
|Thursday, October 21st, 2004|
Pictures!!! (I got Aidan to hold semi-still for a few moments)
*Please excuse my lack of make-up...
~* Laura *~
|Sunday, September 26th, 2004|
I honestly don't know what to do. I've lived in this house for the past 9 months and just this summer these one neighbors have been getting on my nerves. It's an older couple and there raising there two grand-daughters. The keep on trying to tell me how to raise my 5 year old. Now honestly is they did such a wonderful job on there kids why would they have there grand kids. And why would someone be stupid enough to give them the chance to fuck another child up. The wife acts like I don't even know how to take care of my child. I mean she feeds her before i even have a chance to make dinner like at 4pm when a normal dinner time is around 5:30, 6pm. Then on the weekends she gives her a bath. I do that every night. I'm honestly afraid to say something to this women because i just might go off on her. My child shouldn't be naked at her house I don't even know this women. I have asked my daughter just to make sure no funny stuff was going on over there. I'm not stupid. How do i tell this women in a nice way to quit trying to steal my job as a mother.
|Saturday, September 25th, 2004|
Attn: Single Fathers
I am a college student working on a paper on single parenting for a Sociology class. While I've gotten lots of help from single moms, I REALLY need single dads to click below and take a minute to answer a couple of quick q's. Also, if anyone reading knows a single father, PLEASE get him to fill this out... feel free to pass this around and thank you TONS!( THANK YOU for helping!Collapse )
|Thursday, September 23rd, 2004|
I saw this on someone else's post and though it might be fun to post here just to see other people's responses.
Was your baby planned or a surprise? Total surprise. I was on birth control and everything
What is your baby's birthday? How old are they now? 02/22/2004 He's 7 months
Was he/she early, late or on time? Exactly on time, he came on his due date!
Did you know the sex of your baby before he/she was born? Oh yeah, it drove me nuts not to know.
How much did he/she weigh and how long was he/she? 8lbs 0ozs and 21 1/2 inches
How long was your labor? My water broke at 11:30am, and he was delivered at 10:02pm by C-section (even though I was ten centimeters by 8:00 and pushed for an hour and a half.)
Did you have a vaginal birth or a c-section? emergency c-section
If you had a vaginal birth, did you have any pain medications? epidural, couldn't have survived without it (Neither could my husband)
Did your water break on it's own or did it have to be broken? Broke on it's own.
Who was in the delivery room/house with you? Nurses and Hubby until in the OR, then hubby and lots of people in green masks.
If you could, is there anything you would change about your birth experience? nope! All of it, it was a big crazy mess. Except for of course finally meeting our perfect little boy.
Did you have an OB or midwife? OB
What on thing about your baby's birth really sticks out in your mind? Almost dying after bleeding out 2 liters of blood during my c-section.
What one thing to you remember most about your baby when you saw him/her for the first time? What big huge brown eyes he had, and how much he looks like daddy.
After your baby was born, what was the very first thing you ate & drank (if you remember)? Chicken broth, iced tea, and 4 saltine crackers. When I finally got to eat solids again... Big Mac and a Butterfinger McFlurry. Current Mood: cold
I'm going out on a limb here, and I doubt anyone will actually go for this but... I have a friend in need. She is a pregnant teen but her mother refuses to let her have a baby shower so now her little girl is going to be born without all the goodies a lot of us thankfully got to give our children.
I'm throwing her a baby shower behind her mom's back... thing is - I only have 4 people to invite and that's not much. If any of you guys would be interested in getting her something (however small it doesn't matter, it's the thought that counts) PLEASE EMAIL ME. PlsmaChic@excite.com
She's having a little girl, & she's due on October 8th (so this is all really last minute)she hasn't registered anywhere because she doesn't think she's getting a shower, and the only thing she has is a crib (and she's breastfeeding). She could use diapers, pacifiers, outfits, etc. or even a gift card to babies r us or something... Thank you for everything and God bless.
Please help her if you can... Thank you.
~* Laura *~
|Monday, September 20th, 2004|
I just had to show everyone this pic. Tell me if you can see why?
Hi I';m new here and I just found out how to post pics on here and I'm going nuts showing everyone.
Here's Danielle Avril Laraine Heasley
She was born July 8 2003
She is now 14 months and just started walking. She was 9 pounds at birth and you would think she's a big girls but she's not. Your supose to triple your birth weight by the time your a year and she has only barley doubled it.
Here's Brianna Morgan Joni Heasley
She was born January 16 1999
She 5 years old and just started kindergarden this year. I know she's 5 and all but I still call her my baby. I love her so much. I love both my girls.
My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years but only been married for 3
Here we are Raine and Mike Heasley
I'm 24 and he's 29
|Tuesday, September 14th, 2004|
I just found this community. I am a mommy of a beautiful 6 motnh old boy Harrison. We live in Atlanta Georgia right now, but are moving to Calgary in December. Not too much going on here, just trying to master crawling, and get some top teeth in to keep the bottom ones company. Current Mood: content
|Monday, August 16th, 2004|
hi! im melissa. 20 years old, mommy and wife. my husband and i have been married since 2001 and we have 2 kids. our son is 2 and our daughter is 8 months. we live in the chicago suburbs, Illinois. if youd like to know anything more just ask =)
* my journal is "friends only" but im always loving to add new friends to my list, if youd like to be added just leave me a comment and ill add ya!